This Is What Cooking With Kids Really Looks Like

Let’s be honest, cooking with kids sounds like a heartwarming bonding experience… until the flour hits the ceiling, the toddler licks the raw meat, and your older kids mysteriously vanish just before clean-up. 

Everything takes three times longer, the mess triples, and you’re one burnt stir fry away from ordering pizza and calling it a night. But don’t worry, mama, you’re not doing it wrong. This is the real kitchen experience with little hands in the mix.

Despite the chaos, there’s much fun to be found in sharing the kitchen with young children. It’s a great way to build executive functions, strengthen fine motor skills, and sneak in some quality time without needing a non-profit organisation to coordinate it. 

And guess what? 

It doesn’t need to be complicated. Here’s your permission slip to keep it simple and fun, for the whole family.

Permission to Make Cooking With Kids Easy (Really Easy)

Look, Martha Stewart wasn’t managing snack boards with a clingy toddler on her hip and a Lego underfoot. So let’s let go of perfection. 

Cooking with kids doesn’t need to be gourmet. Simple dishes are your friend, think of easy recipes like toast with peanut butter, veggie stir fry, or snack plates with their favourite fillings. The aim is connection, not a Michelin star.

Younger kids might only help wash lettuce, and that’s okay. Older kids could prep ingredients or choose the music while you whip up a delicious meal. Everyone’s involved in a way that suits their age and stage. The bonus? When kids help out, even a little, they’re more likely to try new foods (and less likely to declare war on a cucumber).

So yes, you have full permission to take shortcuts, use pre-chopped veg, or buy that jarred sauce. No judgement here. Your mental health matters too.

Choosing Recipes Together (Bonus Tip: Let the Kids Lead)

One of our favourite ways to get kids engaged?

 Let them help choose what to cook. Go through a few healthy recipes or simple main courses and let them pick. If they feel like they’ve had a say, they’ll be more enthusiastic to join in, and more likely to eat what’s served.

And if you’re part of the 193 Little Adventures Club, you’ll already know that each adventure pack comes with a kid-friendly recipe based on a different country. These are carefully chosen to be easy to make, not too spicy, easily found ingredients and a great way to explore new foods without causing chaos in the kitchen.

Keep a small list of go-to favourite recipes somewhere visible. Think build-your-own tacos, DIY pizzas, or stir fries where they can pick their own veg. Not only does this simplify your weekly shopping list, it also helps build their confidence and creates a regular bonding experience for the whole family.

What Makes a Recipe Kid-Friendly?

When choosing recipes when young kids or younger children are helping out, go for meals that are easy to prep, not too spicy, and are easy to cook. Think of healthy food that they can help with, where a mixing bowl, cutting board, or grater becomes part of the adventure. Kid-friendly recipes often involve familiar textures and flavours, but don’t be afraid to introduce something new.

Encourage kids of all ages to explore healthy meals made with real ingredients. A great recipe doesn’t need to be fussy. Toasted sandwiches with their favourite fillings, a veggie-packed omelette, or mini snack boards with fruit, cheese, and crackers can all be winners.

As you pick out a recipe and you know the kids are going to be helping ask yourself:

• Is this a simple recipe (not too many steps)
• Can it be prepared quickly?
• Are there suitable tasks the kids can do to be involved?

And then when you’re feeling brave, try involving them in baking. It’s a great activity to teach measurements, patience, and why we don’t eat cake batter straight from the spoon (but also, we kind of do). There are some more quick DIY dinner ideas here.

Kids Food vs Adult Meals (Let’s Rethink It, Shall We?)

Rant incoming:

Sometime in the 80’s, kids meals became a thing. Dino shaped chicken nuggets or fish fingers and chips for them and adult stir fry for us. Whereas before that, kids ate exactly what the adults did. Whoever came up with this ‘genius’ idea of different meals for kids (my money is on a bloke), clearly wasn’t doing the cooking!

Feeding the whole family the same food (with minor tweaks) can actually be a great way to expand palates and make life simpler. Sure, sometimes you might crave a spicy curry or want to serve up a grown-up salad while the kids munch on fish fingers, and that’s fine! Just keep it the exception, not the rule.

Eating together and sharing family meals builds routine, encourages trying new foods, and saves time and stress. Trust us, no one wants to clean up after three different meals, especially when dinner prep already feels like an Olympic event.

Of course, some kids have sensory issues or allergies, and that can mean extra work in the kitchen. But if that isn’t an issue in your family, start feeding everyone the same thing.

Do you need an easy cheat meal? If you haven’t tried muffin tin dinners yet, they are a brilliant way to personalise a meal with little effort from the chef!

You can also get the family on board to come up with ideas for meal planning – I know the idea feels some people with dread, if that is you, try it this way!

We have loads of cookbooks but Pretend Soup by Mollie Katzen is hands down the best one for great, healthy recipes created specifically for toddlers and pre-schoolers to make. (aff link) The recipes are in picture format and easy to follow but also come with a grown-ups page with tips on how to make the whole process run smoother.

You Don’t Have to Have Them in There the Whole Time

This one’s a game changer. Cooking with kids doesn’t mean they need to be by your side for every single step. If they help prep the veg, that’s enough. If your young children rinse strawberries while you tackle the main dish, you’re winning.

The kitchen can feel safer and more manageable when they have a specific task. Have them tear herbs, wash salad, or help plate their own snacks. It gives them a sense of control, boosts fine motor skills, and keeps your kitchen from becoming a full-blown food festival.

The key is to keep it age-appropriate and low-pressure. It’s okay if they don’t do much today, this is a long game, and the goal is to build confidence, familiarity, and enjoyment. Bonus: you’re also sneaking in some life skills they’ll thank you for later (like when they make you breakfast in bed).

Dinner Prep Includes Clean-Up (Sorry Kids!)

Ah yes, the part everyone wants to skip. But teaching kids that dinner prep includes clean-up is essential. Whether it’s loading the dishwasher, wiping down counters, or putting ingredients away, these little routines help them understand the whole cooking process.

Older kids can be in charge of stacking dishes, while younger kids can wipe the table or collect napkins. Make it fun, play music, set a timer, or make it a race. 

Tidying up together also reinforces teamwork. And the more they do it, the less they’ll grumble. (Well, maybe just a little.) Think of it as investing in future adults who don’t leave ramen noodles stuck to the kitchen sink.

Once you get them into the habit of doing it after every meal, it will soon become just that, part of the routine.

Top Tip: Always Allow Extra Time When Cooking With Kids

Want to feel like a superhero? 

Add 15-30 minutes to however long you think the recipe will take. When you’re cooking with kids, time bends in mysterious ways. Suddenly finding a mixing bowl is a five-minute scavenger hunt, and chopping a carrot involves a life lesson in geometry.

Build in extra time, and you’ll stay calmer and more present. It gives you space to laugh at the mess, answer endless questions, and breathe through the “I want to crack the eggs!” panic.

This extra buffer also helps your mental health, you’re less rushed, less frazzled, and more likely to enjoy the moment. And when it all comes together and you sit down for a shared delicious meal, it feels all the sweeter.

Remember, you have had years of experience using kitchen equipment, your kids are still learning, it will, of course, take them longer to peel and egg or slice a cucumber. Just think of it as practice, the more they do it, they quicker they get!

Wrap-Up: Cooking With Kids is a Journey, Not a Sprint

Whether you’re tackling healthy recipes, whipping up simple dishes, or just letting them press the blender button, cooking with kids is one of the best ways to connect, teach life skills, and make everyday moments special.

Yes, it’s messy. Yes, it’s chaotic. And yes, sometimes you’ll want to hide in the pantry with your coffee. But it’s also a great activity that creates bonding experiences, builds confidence, and invites kids of all ages into family life in a joyful, practical way.

And you never know, you might have a child that loves food so much, they go off to study it at university at a macrobiotic level!

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Bon appétit, mama. You’ve got this.