Help Your Child Find Their Inner Lion
Following on from the last post about helping our kids to build their confidence, I wanted to share today something we have been working on that has been working really well and that is finding your inner lion.
Calling on our inner lion.
I talked to Ebi-kun and told him that everyone has an inner lion, some people’s inner lion like to get out there and see the world yet others, their inner lion likes to hide until they are called upon in a desperate situation. We talked about how some ordinary people sometimes do really courageous things like saving someone from a burning house or diving into a river to save somebody from drowning. Our inner lion is always there and will always come to help you, you just need to call him. You can even give your inner lion a name if you like.
I told him that when he walks into a room or is going somewhere new and he feels nervous, he is to give his inner lion a shout, he also needs to puff out his chest, stand straight, push his shoulders back and look straight ahead, not down at the floor, if he does this his inner lion can work his magic.
We have been practicing calling our inner lion for a few weeks now and I am seeing an improvement, sometimes I will be watching him and I can see him remember to call his lion, he suddenly starts to stand a little taller and look a little prouder.
Last week he even told me that he called his inner lion when he was at school, one time he was playing tag and one of the big boys was the ‘oni’ (it) he was worried he would get caught straight away but his inner lion came to help him and he didn’t get caught at all!
The other time, one of the boys in his class was trying to make him play/do something he didn’t want to so he called on his lion and told the boy straight that he didn’t want to do and he didn’t. This is quite a break through since Ebi-kun doesn’t like to upset people so he will often just go with the flow even if it is against his wishes.
Another time when is is good to call upon your inner lion is when you see another child being bullied, we need to talk about this to our children too, encourage them to step in and stop it or if it doesn’t feel safe to do that, to tell a teacher or parent, the child can use their inner lion to find the courage to help someone else.
A few other things we have been practicing is making ourselves bigger, by stretching our arms and trying to take up as much room as possible, there is a science behind all this and Amy Cuddy explains it much better in the TED talk than I can. She gives great examples of faking it until you make it and shares tips that we can all use.
For those of use who are more on the introverted scale of things or don’t like meeting new people or going to new places, the inner lion cane make a world of difference. If you try this out with your kids, let me know how it goes!
Since the bullying incident first took place, I have done a lot of reading and research. The statistics for bullying in Japan are pretty scary and since Ebi-kun is ‘hafu’ (mixed race) he is more prone to being bullied, with that in mind, we have tried to prepare ourselves for the future and tried to equip him with the tools that he needs to deal with the situation, that will, without a doubt arise again.
What we have done so far….
.1.Talk to him about the situation, he is only 7 years old so doesn’t fully understand the consequences of bullying. . 2. Joined aikido, we took him along to try it out and see if he enjoyed it. More aggressive sports such a judo or karate just don’t fit with Ebi-kun’s personality so we thought aikido would be a better bet. He does enjoy it, has made some new friends and as of April he is signed up as a member. ***Update, he has now been attending for 5 years and is currently the highest ranking junior in his dojo*** . 3. Practiced the inner lion exercise. . 4. Reading books that have a bullying theme. We have Goal by Mina Javaherbin, Crow Boy by Yashima Taro and Enemy Pie by Derek Munson. . Stopbullying is a whole website dedicated to the problem – lots of help and advice available, so does bullyfree.
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